Maybe it’s just me, but, why do I find it impossible to “Like” a post that is so deeply, sadly, and crushingly personal for the writer? What am I telling them? Am I telling them that I appreciate their writing style? That with their words, they conjure feelings (of sorrow & pain) within me too, and, I want to read more? ‘Cause, after all, isn’t that the sign of a great writer, having the ability to make the reader feel something? Because, that’s not what I want to convey to them when I “Like” their post.
Do they know that when I “Like” their post, I really mean that I understand their pain, as I’ve been through it myself? Or, that they’re telling my life with their words, causing me to relive my own forgotten pain? Because that’s what I want them to know. I want them to know that there is hope after dispair, there is rest for the weary, and there is love after heartbreak. That the more they dwell on their sadness, the more it engulfs them. That they need to know that they’re worthwhile, and that maybe they’ve pinned their hope of love upon the wrong person. That the world is full of love, and, that they don’t have to look far, because there is someone else out there that is worthy of their love, who is also looking for them. And, like any illness (pain) suffered, it must be worked through, and, not succumbed to, to regain your health. And, that laughter truly is the best medicine for anything that ails you.
I don’t want to negate their feelings by “Liking” them with a symbolic star, but, that’s what I feel like I’m doing. Truly, I just want to reach out to them, and give them a big, long hug. To let them cry on my shoulder, until their cheeks sting from the salt of their tears, and they are numb of their pain. Hoping that once their tears run dry, their pain will also subside, and be gone.
For me, to acknowledge their pain by approving (Liking) of it, I feel like I’m ultimately doing the same thing that the POS that caused their painful post was doing. Finding pleasure in the pain that has been inflicted upon them. A pain so deep and resonating, that I can hear the tears fall as they type out their words. And, I just can’t do that.
So, in order for me to acknowledge the writer’s pain & heartache, without feeling like I’m actually supporting it, I’ve decided that in-lieu of a star, I’m going to leave a 😦 in your post comments. Please let it also be known, that it is an invitation to you, if you should need to talk to someone.